{"id":240730,"date":"2023-11-15T00:01:46","date_gmt":"2023-11-15T00:01:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/?p=240730"},"modified":"2023-11-15T00:01:46","modified_gmt":"2023-11-15T00:01:46","slug":"how-to-tell-if-your-relationship-is-doomed-to-failure-according-to-the-bird-test-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/beauty-and-fashion\/how-to-tell-if-your-relationship-is-doomed-to-failure-according-to-the-bird-test-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"How to tell if your relationship is doomed to failure – according to the \u2018bird test\u2019 | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"
DO you ever feel like your partner dismisses the chance to have light-hearted conversations with you? If yes, you might need to try the bird test.<\/p>\n
According to one woman, it is the ultimate way to gauge if your beau is right for you – with one study suggesting it\u2019s the key to avoiding divorce.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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But Alyssa adds that it's also a good way to put friendships and family relationships to the test.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cI live and die by the bird test because it never fails,\u201d she said in a TikTok video.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s a test to gauge whether a not a relationship will be successful.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cUsually, it\u2019s in the context of romantic relationships but I always do this with friends and family members; literally anyone I meet.\u201d<\/p>\n
Explaining how it works, Alyssa used the example of going out for coffee with a new friend.\u00a0<\/p>\n While out, they spotted a woodpecker in the tree and \u201cspent the next ten minutes\u201d talking about it.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cIf you say something that could be deemed insignificant and your partner responds with genuine curiosity, that\u2019s a really good sign that your relationship will last a really long time,\u201d she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cBut if they blow you off and don\u2019t acknowledge you, that\u2019s a really bad sign.\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s for romantic relationships, but I\u2019m telling you: do this with your friends and family members.\u201d<\/p>\n If you feel that someone is constantly dismissing small opportunities to connect with you, then you can try the bird test.\u00a0<\/p>\n It\u2019ll give you a quick insight into how attuned you both are, without the need for a lengthy heart-to-heart.\u00a0<\/p>\n Though it's not gospel on determining relationship health, the bird test does give you something meaningful to think about.<\/p>\n Whether you've been in a relationship for years or are just starting out, enthusiastic interactions every day can help strengthen your bond.\u00a0<\/p>\n Psychologist Dr. John Gottman calls the test a \u201cbid for attention\u201d as it is a way of signalling to a partner that you want them to engage with something you\u2019re interested in.\u00a0<\/p>\n According to research by Dr Gottman, couples that stay married for longer than six years pass the bird test 86% of the time.<\/p>\n That\u2019s because we can\u2019t be perfect 100% of the time, but making an effort to respond to your partner\u2019s \u201cbids for connection\u201d most of the time sets a good foundation for love.<\/p>\n<\/picture>'NO REGRET' <\/span><\/p>\n
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