{"id":237352,"date":"2023-09-29T18:07:59","date_gmt":"2023-09-29T18:07:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/?p=237352"},"modified":"2023-09-29T18:07:59","modified_gmt":"2023-09-29T18:07:59","slug":"ive-had-a-shocking-realisation-after-having-a-threesome-with-my-wife-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/lifestyle\/ive-had-a-shocking-realisation-after-having-a-threesome-with-my-wife-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"I've had a shocking realisation after having a threesome with my wife… | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I decided to kickstart our sex life by having a threesome with another man.<\/p>\n
It did the trick \u2014 we\u2019re having loads of sex again. The problem is, I feel guilty and worry that I enjoyed it too much.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m 38 and my wife is 36. We\u2019ve been married for 11 years.<\/p>\n
A couple of years ago, the intimate side of our relationship ground to a halt. I was stressed at work and just didn\u2019t get \u00adsexually excited any more.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I still fancied my wife, but I couldn\u2019t rise to the occasion.<\/p>\n
It caused lots of tension and upset, and I worried our relationship was doomed.<\/p>\n
Then my wife suggested \u00a0we try a threesome with another guy. It had always been a fantasy of hers. I am open-minded, so I agreed and we found someone online.<\/p>\n
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I was nervous beforehand \u2014 worried I would be jealous or unable to perform.\u00a0 But the opposite happened.\u00a0<\/p>\n
It was so exciting that I got the most turned on I had been in years.\u00a0
To my surprise, I found the other man\u2019s body really arousing. <\/p>\n
And watching him make love with my wife was even more of a thrill.\u00a0<\/p>\n
We didn\u2019t have sex, but he touched me while I was having sex with my wife, and I liked it.<\/p>\n
I touched him too.<\/p>\n
Since then, my wife and I have been having the best sex of our relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n
She has no idea that each time we do it, I fantasise about the other guy.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I have never had any interest in men, but I\u2019m starting to \u00adwonder if I might be gay or bisexual.\u00a0<\/p>\n
DEIDRE SAYS:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>When a couple\u2019s sex life grows stale, introducing a novel element can reinvigorate it.\u00a0<\/p>\n While I would never recommend a threesome as a solution \u2013 they are too fraught with risks \u2013 having one does seem to have done the trick for your marriage.\u00a0<\/p>\n You are now having lots of sex again, which makes \u00a0both you and your wife happy.<\/p>\n However, the downside is you are also questioning your sexuality.<\/p>\n Try not to label yourself. Many people see sexuality as something fluid.\u00a0<\/p>\n It\u2019s likely that it\u2019s the thought of the thrilling, subversive sex that turns you on, rather than the man himself.<\/p>\n Had you had the threesome with a woman instead, you might be feeling the same way.<\/p>\n If you are worried about this, read my support pack, Bisexual Questions, and contact one of \u00a0the organisations listed in it \u00a0for advice.<\/p>\n Another one of my support packs \u00a0 Thinking About A Threesome might also be helpful for you.<\/p>\n<\/picture>DEAR DEIDRE <\/span><\/p>\n
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