{"id":237256,"date":"2023-09-28T18:24:40","date_gmt":"2023-09-28T18:24:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/?p=237256"},"modified":"2023-09-28T18:24:40","modified_gmt":"2023-09-28T18:24:40","slug":"woman-calls-late-father-abusive-narcissistic-in-scathing-obitutary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/world-news\/woman-calls-late-father-abusive-narcissistic-in-scathing-obitutary\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman calls late father &apos;abusive, narcissistic,&apos; in scathing obitutary"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>Canadian woman Amanda Denis publishes scathing obituary for late father branding him an &#8216;abusive, narcissistic&#8217; parent, reveals she was happy stroke left him unable to speak &#8211; and thanks &#8216;karma&#8217; for killing him<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><span>Amanda Denis of Canada wrote a scathing obituary for her late father, Stefan Harold Kandulski, branding him an &#8216;abusive, narcissistic&#8217; parent<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span>In a TikTok, Denis shared pics of the obituary in which she started with the words: &#8216;I am pleased to announce&#8217;\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span>Hundreds of commenters have applauded the woman for her candor and shared their own stories of their abusive parents and strained relationships\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span><span>Can you share more information about Amanda or her dad? Email newsUS@dailymail.com\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A Canadian woman has published a shockingly vicious obituary for her late dad claiming she was glad he was silenced by a stroke and that &#8216;karma&#8217; killed him.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In a TikTok, Amanda Denis shared screengrabs of the obituary for her dad, Stefan Harold Kandulski, which started with the words: &#8216;I am pleased to announce.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Denis was forced to publish the memorial on social media after a local funeral home refused to do so.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>According to the daughter, Kandulski was an &#8216;absentee father\/husband\/brother\/son,&#8217; an &#8216;abusive, narcissistic parent&#8217; and &#8216;miserable human&#8217; who she was happy to see go.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She wrote that after suffering multiple strokes &#8211; one &#8216;thankfully leaving him unable to speak&#8217; &#8211;\u00a0 Kandulsi, 74, &#8216;finally kicked the bucket.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In a follow up video, Denis thanked people for their support on the video of the obituary for her &#8216;sperm donor,&#8217; which also received supportive comments.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;That was such a good obit, it speaks to our truth too, I wish we had the courage at the time. Thank you,&#8217; wrote one commenter on Denis&#8217; follow-up TikTok.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/28\/18\/75945211-12571769-Amanda_Denis_pictured_recently_published_a_scathing_obituary_for-m-2_1695920520277.jpg\" height=\"560\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Amanda Denis (pictured) recently published a scathing obituary for her deceased father, branding him as an &#8216;abusive, narcissistic&#8217; parent and thanking a stroke for killing him<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/28\/18\/75945219-12571769-This_is_the_the_obituary_Denis_published_for_her_father_Stefan_H-a-1_1695920919921.jpg\" height=\"1138\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>This is the the obituary Denis published for her father, Stefan Harold Kandulski<\/p>\n<p>Kandulski died in Penticton, British Columbia after a multiple strokes.<\/p>\n<p>Denis, a resident of Ontario, said that her version of the obituary was rejected by her father&#8217;s funeral home and that she then decided to publish it on her own.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Talking with CTV, the woman said she knew what she had to do after hearing of her &#8216;miserable&#8217; father&#8217;s death earlier this year.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I&#8217;ve never been one to mince words, I&#8217;ve always been an honest straight-shooter,&#8217; Denis said. &#8216;So when I found out about my father&#8217;s passing, I said, &#8216;I guess I have to write an obituary&#8217; \u2013 and that&#8217;s what came out.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Additionally, she decided not to hold services for the deceased, because he &#8216;treated people with disdain.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Before closing out the compelling and controversial obit, she thanked the staff at her father&#8217;s hospital and his senior community for putting up with him.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She also gave a special shout out to karma for &#8216;doing what she does best.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In her interview with the Canadian outlet, she said that many of her earliest memories involved emotional and physical abuse from her father.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Later in life, she decided to cut ties with him completely.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I didn&#8217;t want him to hurt anyone that I loved anymore, including myself,&#8217; she said.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/28\/18\/75945213-12571769-_I_ve_never_been_one_to_mince_words_I_ve_always_been_an_honest_s-a-2_1695920919922.jpg\" height=\"359\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I&#8217;ve never been one to mince words, I&#8217;ve always been an honest straight-shooter,&#8217; Denis said. &#8216;So when I found out about my father&#8217;s passing, I said, &#8216;I guess I have to write an obituary&#8217; \u2013 and that&#8217;s what came out.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>#obituary #baddad #parentalabusevictim #bc #fyp #truth #deadbeatdad #obituary #narsassisticfamily #absentfather #freespeech #daughter <\/p>\n<p>Overall, Denis said she believes the obituary was the perfect final sendoff for the parent who she deemed unfit to be a father.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Not all parents are good, and that&#8217;s OK and it&#8217;s OK to talk about,&#8217; she told Glacier Media. &#8216;My father was absent, he was abusive, he was narcissistic.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;There&#8217;s just some people who aren&#8217;t meant to be parents,&#8217; she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The obituary &#8211; and her TikTok videos &#8211; really struck a cord online with others who have dealt with abusive parents or had significantly strained relationships.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Hundreds of commenters have applauded the woman and shared their own stories in the comments of her videos.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I can only imagine how cathartic writing that, was.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Wrote a letter to my mother we called the cold north wind. Everything thing I ever felt towards her I wrote. 10 pages .stuffed into her urn smiling.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I am sorry you had to experience this through your life. I applaud you for standing up for your family, and showing others they are not alone.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I\u2019m so sorry for the pain and anguish you\u2019ve gone through. The obit was perfection.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/28\/18\/75945207-12571769-image-a-5_1695920625233.jpg\" height=\"357\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>This is the Penticton Regional Hospital where Kandulski died<\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/youtube.com\/watch?v=M0zLJ3oyhfk%3Frel%3D0<\/p>\n<p>Denis said her hope is that others feel compelled to share their own stories and speak their truth when it comes to a painful topic.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She urges others to go beyond the polished bits that typically appear on Facebook or Instagram and tell the real truth of their lives.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;We see the glorified lives that we all apparently live, but we don&#8217;t get to see this stuff \u2013 the stuff that matters, the stuff that hurts us, and the stuff that turns us into the people who we are today,&#8217; she said.<\/p>\n<p>Additionally, she said no one objected to her obituary in her family as they understood &#8216;what kind of man he really was.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The final message written in the obituary was a call to action, asking that in lieu of flowers: &#8216;just be kind to your fellow human, spread light and love where you can, and do with your life what this man clearly lacked the ability to do.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/news\/article-12571769\/canadian-woman-amanda-denis-narcissist-father-obituary.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Canadian woman Amanda Denis publishes scathing obituary for late father branding him an &#8216;abusive, narcissistic&#8217; 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