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DEAR DEIDRE: AN old letter confirmed my suspicions that my husband had cheated with my best friend \u2013 and she had tried to stop our wedding.<\/p>\n

We have been happily married for 35 years. He is 65 and I\u2019m 67.<\/p>\n

My sister-in-law has just been to Scotland and one of her photos was at a landmark where we\u2019d had our picture taken on our honeymoon.<\/p>\n

I went upstairs to find the image to show her. I pulled out a box of photos from under my husband\u2019s side of the bed and tucked up at one side was an envelope. <\/p>\n

I recognised the writing as that of my old friend Liz.<\/p>\n

Her letter read: \u201cYou know we\u2019ve got a good thing going on (and I don\u2019t just mean the amazing sex). Please think about what you\u2019re doing.\u201d I felt sick.<\/p>\n

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It was dated four months before our wedding day. She was my chief bridesmaid too. <\/p>\n

My husband acted very strangely around that time. <\/p>\n

He became cool with me and I thought he was getting cold feet about the wedding.<\/p>\n

A tiny doubt did make me question how much they both got on.<\/p>\n

Now I wonder if he was ever happy with me. I see Liz every week in town when we go shopping. Now I can\u2019t face her.<\/p>\n

My sister-in-law saw I had been crying but I\u2019ve sworn her to secrecy. She has tried to pacify me but I feel I need extra help.<\/p>\n

My husband knows that I\u2019m being off-hand with him.<\/p>\n

What shall I do?<\/p>\n

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DEIDRE SAYS:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span> You have to talk to your husband. If you don\u2019t say anything, this will fester and you\u2019ll feel worse.<\/p>\n

Now your sister-in-law knows, these things have a habit of coming out so speak to him sooner rather than later.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s important is that you\u2019ve had 35\u200ayears together. You have enjoyed a happy marriage and he probably feels the same.<\/p>\n

Liz has been a good friend and although this seems like a huge betrayal, my guess is that her life will have moved on such a lot since this fling and she probably feels very guilty.<\/p>\n

It would be good if you could talk to somebody impartial.<\/p>\n

My Cheating support pack will show you how to tackle this with your husband and where you can find emotional support.<\/p>\n

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