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When Kylie Jenner and Jordyn Woods were spotted in an TikTok video together for the first time in years, after infamously falling out, the public were intrigued.<\/p>\n
The pair were also pictured together during the summer, when they were seen leaving a sushi restaurant.<\/p>\n
Friends come and go \u2013 but then, it seems, some friends come back. <\/p>\n
Reconnecting with a friend can benefit us mentally, as a\u00a0report\u00a0from the American Psychological Association found that reaching out to a long-lost friend can cause an increase in \u2018positive feelings\u2019 for both you and the friend.<\/p>\n
We\u2019re social and sentimental creatures \u2013 when looking at romantic breakups, a study found 44%\u00a0of people who broke up got back together again.<\/p>\n
Bad blood and drifting doesn\u2019t have to last forever, and these Metro.co.uk readers show there\u2019s a way to move forward.<\/p>\n
We joke that Matt Cardle from X-Factor saved our friendship<\/p>\n
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Charly Lewis, 35, and Carly Turner, 35, are close friends living in London.<\/p>\n
They met at school, but became close when they both moved to London.<\/p>\n
\u2018In 2010, we found ourselves living in the same area of London and in similar stages of life,\u2019 Charly says. \u2018That was it! We became close very quickly and had the best (and most wild!) time together.\u2019<\/p>\n
But, Charly notes that the pair have fallen out \u2018spectacularly\u2019 on two occasions.<\/p>\n
\u2018The first time was a long, long time ago and I genuinely can\u2019t remember why,\u2019 she says.<\/p>\n
\u2018We didn\u2019t speak for about six months. But I heard through mutual friends that Carly was unwell, so I felt as though I needed to get in touch \u2013 but wasn\u2019t sure how to make that first step. <\/p>\n
\u2018I was working in TV and we had the singer Matt Cardle in for interview. I knew Carly had loved him on The X Factor so I cheekily asked if I could take a photo of him holding a sign saying: \u201cGet well soon Carly\u201d and I sent it to her.<\/p>\n
\u2018We put everything that had happened behind us and slotted right back to where we had been. We also joke about how Matt Cardle saved our friendship.\u2019<\/p>\n
They then fell out again more than 10 years later, in 2021.<\/p>\n
\u2018The catalyst was that I felt left out and didn\u2019t address it very well. We didn\u2019t speak for about a year. I\u2019d been thinking about Carly though as I\u2019d heard a song we loved on the radio, and then bizarrely she messaged that day just asking how I was. We met up and chatted and both wanted the friendship to work again.\u2019<\/p>\n
They missed each other when they weren\u2019t talking and compared it to a romantic breakup.<\/p>\n
\u2018I don\u2019t think we give enough thought to how upsetting the break up of a platonic relationship can be,\u2019 Charly continues.<\/p>\n
\u2018There is still a lot that reminds you of them as you go about your daily life and you have so many fun memories that can come back and make you feel sad to not have that person in your life anymore. <\/p>\n
\u2018I feel as a society we have sympathy for when you break up with a partner but less understanding of friendships ending.<\/p>\n
\u2018We are so glad that we are friends again! I think it says a lot that we\u2019ve been through bad times but still value one another enough to want the friendship to work. It makes our friendship stronger.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u2018It\u2019s so brilliant to have someone who knows everything about you, including the bad sides, and still wants to be mates.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u2018I think some friendships will come and go, and that\u2019s fine. And then there are a rare few that you will never be able to replace and you can\u2019t let them go!\u2019<\/p>\n
Being uninvited to her wedding left me devastated<\/p>\n
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Laura Sylvester, 32, and Ruby Henderson, 35, are both from Preston and met at a charity fashion show they were both taking part in, when they were aged 19 and 22, respectively. <\/p>\n
Laura says: \u2018I remember connecting with her as, like me, she was quite quiet, and different from the other girls, with her fiery\u00a0red hair and pale skin. <\/p>\n
\u2018We had so much in common it felt like I\u2019d known her for years, so we promised to stay in touch after the show, but we forgot to take each other\u2019s details.<\/p>\n
\u2018A couple of years later, I was in hospital and one of my tutors mentioned a girl at college that seemed to be going through something similar and that maybe I could talk to her \u2013 it turned out to be her! From there we became really close friends.<\/p>\n
\u2018But then in 2014 she sent me an invitation to her wedding which was an honour. But as time got nearer to the wedding, I received a Facebook message from her saying they were having to reduce the numbers for the wedding and were only have close friends and family. <\/p>\n
\u2018I wasn\u2019t included and therefore could not come to the wedding. <\/p>\n
\u2018As you\u2019d imagine, I was absolutely devastated. I didn\u2019t feel important or like I mattered enough\u00a0as a friend to her.\u2019<\/p>\n
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From that point on, the friends stopped speaking \u2013 bar an occasional message here and there. <\/p>\n
\u2018We spoke briefly over messages, mainly for advice through some difficult times,\u2019 Laura explains. \u2018In 2017 when I was in a unwell she told me she was coming to visit me in hospital and bring some essentials \u2013 then she didn\u2019t get in touch for two years.<\/p>\n
\u2018In 2019 she gave birth and I sent her a message to congratulate her.<\/p>\n
\u2018I did miss her and I thought of her a lot, as I still had her on Facebook, so I would see updates. It felt hard not being part of her life. Despite what had happened, she still meant a lot to me.\u2019<\/p>\n
In lockdown, they finally met up for the first time in years.<\/p>\n
\u2018Since 2020 we began speaking again properly, like nothing had ever happened,\u2019 she continues.<\/p>\n
\u2018I never felt bitter, I always knew deep down we\u2019d be in each other\u2019s lives, people just go through things and that\u2019s okay. I\u2019m not the type of person to hold grudges. <\/p>\n
\u2018Our friendship now is even closer and couldn\u2019t be better. We\u2019ve been through a lot together, she means a lot to me and always will no matter what happens. <\/p>\n
\u2018I\u2019m a great believer in things happening for a reason, but it\u2019s clear that we were always meant to be friends. I adore her deeply, she\u2019s a wonderful person.\u2019<\/p>\n
Sarah Kauter, a qualified life coach and founder of the\u00a0Athena Method, says:\u00a0 <\/p>\n
\u2018Consider the specific situation that led to your friendship breakdown. Did you have a massive row, or just drift apart? If the tension between you stems from something that\u2019s abnormal for your relationship and not a pattern or ongoing occurrence, then that\u2019s a solid basis for a reunion. <\/p>\n
\u2018If you are the friend who\u2019s being told you\u2019ve caused upset, it\u2019s important that you\u2019re open minded about the situation. If you can\u2019t take accountability, the situation won\u2019t be resolved. Ultimately, you must both be willing to listen, accept wrongdoing, respect one another\u2019s feelings, and make positive changes moving forward.\u2019<\/p>\n
\u2018After reigniting a friendship, you must both outline your respective boundaries so that you don\u2019t feel disrespected again moving forward. Explain why you\u2019re upset, the action that caused this, and why it triggered a reaction, so your friend can better understand you and prevent this reoccurring in the future. Communication is key.\u2019\u00a0<\/p>\n