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ANDY HAMILTON was convinced his wife of three years was cheating on him. <\/p>\n

Gemma, 37, had just given birth to their son Henley – but the once doting dad had difficulty showing interest in their newborn child and his family. <\/p>\n


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Andy, 54, even fell asleep at the birth of his fourth child. <\/p>\n

He also became distant and apathetic, paranoid his wife of three years was cheating on him.<\/p>\n

Gemma from Sturminster Newton, Dorset, said: "We got together almost eight years ago and have always been secure in our relationship.<\/p>\n

"However, shortly after having Henley, I noticed huge changes in Andy's personality."<\/p>\n

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Though previously very involved in his family, Andy now seemed disinterested in helping Gemma care for their newborn son. His bizarre behaviour almost cost the couple's relationship. <\/p>\n

"I would ask Andy to change Henley's nappy to which he would say he had a headache and I had to do it," the mum recalled. <\/p>\n

"At first I thought it was an excuse and that he was struggling adapting to life with two young children.<\/p>\n

"It felt as though Andy wasn't listening to me, and because I kept pointing out things that he was doing wrong, his paranoia caused him to believe things that weren't true.<\/p>\n

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"He kept saying he knew it was all in his head but he couldn't stop the thoughts."<\/p>\n

Land agent Andy fell asleep at the birth of his son, Henley, in May 2022.<\/p>\n

And from March to May 2023 Gemma said he was "all over the place" and added: "The infrequent episodes of confusion and paranoia were now daily."<\/p>\n

The "final straw" came when he was making the bed and couldn't figure out how to take the duvet out of the cover.<\/p>\n

Andy decided to book a check up with his GP.<\/p>\n

On the way to the appointment, the dad of four vomited and the doctor referred him urgently to A&E at Dorset County Hospital with a suspected infection.<\/p>\n

Within 24 hours Andy's cognition had deteriorated.<\/p>\n

But he and his family were shocked to find out the real reason behind his strange behaviour.<\/p>\n

After a scan, he was diagnosed with a glioblastoma (GBM) brain tumour, a fast-growing and aggressive type of tumour that is the most common type of primary malignant brain tumour in adults.<\/p>\n

According to Cancer Research UK, about 32 per cent of brain tumour diagnoses in England between 1995 and 2017 were glioblastomas. <\/p>\n

Andy was able to have surgery to 'debulk' the tumour on May 31 this year at Southampton General Hospital, followed by six weeks of combined radiotherapy and chemotherapy.<\/p>\n

Gemma said: "Instantly after the operation Andy's mood changed, and his personality resembled the old Andy.<\/p>\n

"We felt better knowing that there was something to blame for Andy's behaviour and that it wasn't our marriage breaking down.<\/p>\n

"We knew what we were dealing with and could work on a plan of action on how to battle the cancer."<\/p>\n

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Your skull is made of bone, so there’s a fixed amount of space for the brain to take up, according to Cancer Research UK. <\/p>\n

A brain tumour increases the pressure inside the skull, which might cause some of the following symptoms:<\/p>\n

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  1. headaches<\/strong> that make you feel sick or wake you up at night, which might get steadily worse <\/li>\n
  2. about 80 per cent of people with a brain tumour suffer from seizures <\/strong><\/li>\n
  3. feeling or being sick<\/strong>, especially when you move suddenly <\/li>\n
  4. drowsiness or loss of consciousness<\/strong> <\/li>\n
  5. problems with your eyes<\/strong>, such as blurred vision, floating shapes or losing the ability to see out of the corner of your eyes <\/li>\n
  6. personality or behavioural changes<\/strong>, confusion and difficulty thinking normally <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    While he undergoes a second cycle of chemotherapy, Andy has signed up to take part in a sponsored walk for the charity Brain Tumour Research.<\/p>\n

    The Walk of Hope in Swanage is a fundraising event will take place on September 30 and raises funds to help find a cure for the disease.<\/p>\n

    Gemma, who began fundraising for the charity by selling home-grown vegetables when Andy was diagnosed, said: "Andy has really felt the fatigue that comes with every round of treatment.<\/p>\n

    "He has always been an active person and together we have been going out on family walks in preparation for the event at the end of September.<\/p>\n

    "This will be a real challenge for him."<\/p>\n

    Mel Tiley, the community development manager at Brain Tumour Research, said: "Andy's story is a stark reminder of the indiscriminate nature of brain tumours, which can affect anyone at any time.<\/p>\n

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