{"id":234445,"date":"2023-08-30T15:31:06","date_gmt":"2023-08-30T15:31:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/?p=234445"},"modified":"2023-08-30T15:31:06","modified_gmt":"2023-08-30T15:31:06","slug":"tracey-cox-reveals-20-red-flags-your-partner-is-having-an-affair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/lifestyle\/tracey-cox-reveals-20-red-flags-your-partner-is-having-an-affair\/","title":{"rendered":"Tracey Cox reveals 20 red flags your partner is having an affair"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>20 signs your partner is cheating: Tracey Cox reveals the subtle red flags that you probably won&#8217;t pick up on<\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Tracey Cox has revealed 20 not-so-obvious signs your partner is having an affair<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>READ MORE: Tracey Cox reveals the REAL reasons you&#8217;re not in a relationship<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span>We all know a partner being suddenly secretive with their phone is the biggest hint they might be playing away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But what about the less obvious clues your partner could be having an affair?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>It\u2019s the subtle signs that people miss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>No-one wants to discover infidelity, so we all tend to give our partners the benefit of doubt. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship, after all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>And it should remain so. I\u2019m not trying to whip you all up into a paranoid frenzy, there are other reasonable explanations for all these things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But if a lot of them are happening and something doesn\u2019t feel quite right, sit up and pay attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/30\/07\/74838517-12457609-If_you_re_having_more_sex_than_usual_and_your_partner_s_spending-a-2_1693376367236.jpg\" height=\"425\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re having more sex than usual and your partner&#8217;s spending habits change, it could mean your partner is having an affair (Stock image)<\/p>\n<p><span>1. You\u2019re having more sex than usual<\/span><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re having great sex, your partner can\u2019t possibly be having an affair, right?<\/p>\n<p>Not so fast. The \u2018hydraulic pump theory\u2019 \u2013 you only have so much energy for sex, so if you\u2019re getting it elsewhere, you won\u2019t want it at home, isn\u2019t correct. Some people are more passionate at home when they\u2019re having sex on the side: the affair sexually arouses them. Some get a kick going straight from one bed to the next. Another clue: your partner\u2019s more confident in bed and wants to try things they wouldn\u2019t usually.<\/p>\n<p><span>2. They\u2019re being more loving or critical than usual<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU AREN\u2019T OVERREACTING?\u00a0<\/h3>\n<p>Some people will answer \u2018yes\u2019 to all the above without any reason to do so. Totally innocent acts can take on ominous overtones if you\u2019ve got a history or family background of infidelity. Even if you don\u2019t have a tarnished background, some people mistakenly think love means never doing anything apart. If their partner wants to do something solo, it must mean they\u2019re having an affair (it doesn\u2019t).<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve got low self-esteem, you\u2019re also far more likely to think your partner is being unfaithful. Who could blame them for sleeping around when you\u2019re boring\/fat\/stupid\/unsexy\/ unattractive?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The easiest way to find out if you\u2019re being rightfully suspicious or ridiculously paranoid is to ask yourself this: is it normal for me to think my partner\u2019s playing around or is it unusual for me to mistrust someone? If it\u2019s the latter, keep your eyes open.<\/p>\n<p>Remember what it\u2019s like to be infatuated? The world\u2019s suddenly a wonderful place. Things that used to cause arguments between you now don\u2019t &#8211; your partner is letting you \u2018win\u2019 because they\u2019re no longer invested in the relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Equally as likely is that they will become overly critical, pouncing on everything you do wrong and pointing out your many flaws. This justifies the affair to themselves: Of course I\u2019m having an affair! I\u2019m married to her\/him!<\/p>\n<p><span>3. They accuse YOU of cheating<\/span><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a sneaky tactic and a remarkably effective one. It sends a signal that they believe cheating is a bad thing and they must care about you, or they wouldn\u2019t care less if you cheated. It\u2019s often genuine: they\u2019re getting away with seeing someone else, so could you be!<\/p>\n<p><span>4. They avoid eye contact<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Only a seasoned liar and hardened person can look directly into the eyes of someone they know loves them when they are betraying them.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, research suggests if your partner can look you in eyes and touch you lovingly at the same time, it\u2019s a good indication they aren\u2019t up to anything. (The exception? Serial cheaters. If you\u2019ve always cheated and see nothing wrong with it, you\u2019ll accomplish this no problem at all.)<\/p>\n<p><span>5. Their interests change<\/span><\/p>\n<p>They used to love rom-coms, now they\u2019re into serious documentaries. Before it was 90s pop, now it\u2019s Indie. The guy who wouldn\u2019t eat anything other than burgers, suddenly decides he loves Vietnamese.<\/p>\n<p>The new person is changing or expanding their interests and hobbies.<\/p>\n<p><span>6. Their spending habits change<\/span><\/p>\n<p>If they are spending more, it usually means they\u2019re going out more or buying gifts. Pay attention if they are withdrawing lots of cash: cash means you can\u2019t see where they\u2019ve been on bank or credit card statements.<\/p>\n<p>Unexpected presents might come your way as well: guilt makes the most ungenerous person suddenly prone to buying flowers.<\/p>\n<p><span>7. They experience mood swings<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Affairs are turbulent. You oscillate between being unbearably excited to desperately guilty. One minute it\u2019s off (they hate themselves for doing it to you) then it\u2019s back on again (lust is hard to resist). It\u2019s a rollercoaster of emotions that are impossible to hide completely.<\/p>\n<p><span>8. They steer away from making future plans<\/span><\/p>\n<p>If the affair is more than just a fling, they don\u2019t want to discuss when to move house, book that dream holiday, whether to move an ageing parent in. They aren\u2019t sure they\u2019re going to be around.<\/p>\n<p><span>9. They\u2019re distant generally<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Less engaged in conversations, distracted, preoccupied with their own thoughts and emotions: all these things suggest their attention has shifted elsewhere.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/30\/07\/74838421-12457609-British_sex_expert_Tracey_Cox_pictured_has_revealed_20_not_so_ob-a-1_1693376367235.jpg\" height=\"953\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>British sex expert Tracey Cox (pictured) has revealed 20 not-so-obvious signs your partner is having an affair\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span>10. They go off radar when they didn\u2019t before<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Usually, they\u2019d text back within 15 minutes, now it\u2019s more like an hour. Being uncharacteristically unreachable is often the first definite clue something is happening.<\/p>\n<p>Also beware background noises during calls that don\u2019t seem to fit the location: they\u2019re at a bar with their mates but there\u2019s no loud banter; they\u2019re at work but you hear a bus or train go past.<\/p>\n<p><span>11. There\u2019s a change in their routine<\/span><\/p>\n<p>If your boyfriend used to run at 5am and now he\u2019s running at 7pm and for twice as long, you don\u2019t need to be a rocket scientist to figure out something\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n<p>Working late when it\u2019s not usual for them; joining a book club when they\u2019ve never shown interest in reading.<\/p>\n<p>Watch if they\u2019re paying more attention to your schedule as well. The more they know about where you\u2019ll be and when, the safer they\u2019ll be meeting in public and the easier it is to get away with things.<\/p>\n<p><span>12. There\u2019s a change in their appearance<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Have they suddenly lost those few extra kilos? Are they hitting the gym and revamping their wardrobe without a word of criticism or encouragement from you?<\/p>\n<p>All could be a sign they\u2019re out to impress.<\/p>\n<p>Showering when they come home \u2013 when they don\u2019t usually \u2013 is another red flag. They\u2019re trying to wash the scent of sex or perfume from their body.<\/p>\n<p><span>13. They volunteer minimum information<\/span><\/p>\n<p>If they used to be chatty but are less interested in talking generally, it could be because they\u2019re scared of slipping up. If you\u2019re trying to cover your tracks, you\u2019ll offer the minimum of details in case you slip up.<\/p>\n<p>Add some unexplained absences or vague explanations for where they\u2019ve been, and an affair becomes even more likely.<\/p>\n<p><span>14. There are lots of calls from a friend you\u2019ve heard of but never met<\/span><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s an old trick and a good one: they\u2019ve saved the number of the person they\u2019re having an affair with under the name of someone you won\u2019t question them talking to.<\/p>\n<p>Or this IS the person they are having the affair with.<\/p>\n<p>The urge to talk about someone you\u2019re infatuated with, does lead to some people constantly singing the praises of the person they\u2019re having sex with to their spouse or partner. (Particularly common if it\u2019s a work colleague, which it often is.)<\/p>\n<p>Even more disturbing, is a surprisingly tendency to take this one step further\u2026<\/p>\n<p><span>15. A new \u2018friend\u2019 is suddenly invited into your home<\/span><\/p>\n<p>It sounds bizarre and it is: to cover up an affair, some people introduce the person they\u2019re having the affair with to their partners. (The logic being you won\u2019t possibly suspect if it\u2019s not hidden.) Often, it\u2019s done to placate the bit-on-the-side: you\u2019d be amazed how many mistresses insist on meeting the wife.<\/p>\n<p><span>16. Your body warns you<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Suddenly plagued by thrush and\/or urinary tract infections? Having problems getting an erection? It could be because you\u2019re suddenly exposed to your partner\u2019s lover\u2019s infections or your body\u2019s accepted what your heart doesn\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n<p><span>17. Their body warns you<\/span><\/p>\n<p>If they\u2019re conflicted \u2013 they love you but also want to be with the new person \u2013 their body language will give them away. It\u2019s stressful having an affair. They\u2019ll be twitchy and \u2018leak\u2019 \u2013 inner emotions we\u2019re trying to hide reveal themselves by a leg that bounces up and down, a new tendency to fiddle with things while talking to you.<\/p>\n<p>Guilt causes us to sag: they might look weary, fold in on themselves, shoulders slouched. It\u2019s quite possible they\u2019ll seem nervous around you and hypervigilant: they\u2019re on guard so you don\u2019t catch them out. Lying is hard work and requires a very good memory.<\/p>\n<p><span>18. You feel depressed and anxious<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Most people know when their partners are unfaithful \u2013 they just don\u2019t want to admit it to themselves. If you\u2019re crying \u2018for no reason\u2019, getting headaches, feeling rundown \u2013 again, it\u2019s your body\u2019s way of saying, \u2018Hey, you might not want to admit it. But I know you think they\u2019re cheating and I\u2019m suffering for it.\u2019<\/p>\n<p><span>19. Your friends drop hints, their friends avoid you<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Men tend to cover up for each other; women feel obliged to give some sort of warning, no matter how subtle. While few people will blurt the news out, many give themselves away by making indirect comments.<\/p>\n<p>Pay attention. That passing remark from a friend (\u2018I was reading a story today about infidelity. God, you just never know, do you?\u2019) is sometimes a warning.<\/p>\n<p>If their friends seem to be finding all sorts of excuses not to see you or talk to you, it could be they know what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n<p><span>20. Your instincts tell you something\u2019s wrong<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Most people who seriously suspect their partner is cheating turn out to be right. If you can\u2019t put your finger on it, but you know something\u2019s up, call them on it. If you feel anxious and \u2018not quite sure of them\u2019, it could be a sign they\u2019re distancing themselves. Particularly listen to your intuition if you\u2019re female and don\u2019t have a problem with jealousy. We\u2019ve got great inner radars.<\/p>\n<p><span>Visit traceycox.com for Tracey\u2019s blog, books, podcast and product ranges<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-12457609\/Tracey-Cox-reveals-20-signs-partner-having-affair.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>20 signs your partner is cheating: Tracey Cox reveals the subtle red flags that you probably won&#8217;t pick up on Tracey Cox has revealed 20 not-so-obvious signs your partner is&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.8 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Tracey Cox reveals 20 red flags your partner is having an affair - lovemainstream.com<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/lovemainstream.com\/lifestyle\/tracey-cox-reveals-20-red-flags-your-partner-is-having-an-affair\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Tracey Cox reveals 20 red flags your partner is having an affair - 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